We bought our RAV4 EV (2012, classic silver) four weeks ago, and have around 1300 miles on it already. Our use case is very similar to yours. We're sharing the car, but my wife has a 70+ mile roundtrip commute. We also had the recommended Leviton 40A charger installed at our house.
So far, our experience has been really good. I had done a lot of reading here and at other forums about issues folks were facing, but we haven't had any major glitches to speak of, even with the charge timer. The range has been better than advertised - we can easily take a 20m drive sat night after my wife's 70m commute and have plenty left over after a standard charge, so we've had very little range anxiety. The performance and ride are really great, and it's very comfortable for both of us.
The only thing that has been a little weird - and you'll see other folks describe this in other posts here - is the way the car inconsistently chooses a time to turn itself on to charge in the middle of the night when using the charge timer, and always finishes charging 7 minutes late. This hasn't been a problem for us - it's always started charging after midnight, when the electric rates go down, but it is a bit disconcerting. We just set the charge timer for a departure time 10 minutes before we actually expect to depart, and there hasn't been a problem since. The advertised charge times for the Leviton charger seem accurate, and the charge is usually only around 3 hours to get back to full after my wife's commute.
While we haven't experienced a single missed charge yet, many on the forum have said there's a bug in the timer that affects the timer on last day of months with 31 days, and a problem where the charge timer doesn't work with a Level 2 charger after using the 120V charger. You'll want to be on the lookout for those, and possibly do a manual charge on the 31st of any month or after you use the 120V charger and go back to a Level 2 charger.
We had two issues that weren't really related to the car:
* It was hard to get PG&E to switch us over to the E-9A timed rate plan. We had a number of interactions with folks there who seemed a little confused by the whole thing. (We didn't need to upgrade our power to install the charging station, and we already have a smart meter, so perhaps they just weren't used to switching the rate plan without some sort of site visit or upgrade.)
* We were wondering why we didn't have all of the functionality of the Entune app (charge monitor, remote climate, etc.), and it turns out that you need to register for your 3 free years of Safety Connect before that shows up. The dealer didn't give us the necessary info when we bought the car, but the Safety Connect people were very nice about getting us set up. You'll want to call them at 1-800-331-4331 if you haven't already signed up.
All in all, though, we really love it. With the recent deep discounts, the Tesla drivetrain, good range and a roomy interior, it's really been a great fit for us.